Sunday, October 1, 2017

"Every Knee Shall Bow." A sermon from Littlefield Presbyteria Church on World Communion and Peacemaking Sunday.

Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr and other civil rights activists kneel in prayer.

"Every Knee Shall Bow"

Philippians 2:1-13; Matthew 21:23-32


In the gospel lesson we heard today, Jesus is in Jerusalem. He has entered the city with the crowds cheering and shouting “Hosanna!”. He cleansed and occupied the Temple. On the second day, Jesus’ opponents begin a series of five challenges that try to undermine his authority.
            In this first challenge, the chief priests and elders of the people-- the religious authorities who pose the question-- are the very ones who will later conspire to have him arrested and put to death.  They demand to know: "By what authority are you doing these things?  Who gave you this authority to do them?"
            Jesus avoids their trap and turns the tables on the religious leaders with a question of his own: “Did the baptism of John come from heaven, or was it of human origin?” Then he tells the parable of the two sons and asks, “Which son does the will of his father?”
            There’s a lot in this parable--probably enough for more than one sermon. One of the things I hear in the parable is that the future is open. God is here, inviting each of us into a future that holds the possibility of receiving God’s grace, repenting of things we’ve done, returning to right relationship with God and others, and receiving the future as open and full of grace and hope.
            We live in a time of great division over politics and beliefs and values and race-- things that people feel very strongly about.   In the midst of this divisiveness, how are we called to live, as followers of Jesus?

            Over the past week, I’ve been following the conflict over the NFL. Early in the week, one of my Facebook friends who is a professor of New Testament, pointed to the Philippians text.  Heads up!

            Writing from prison, the apostle Paul has been encouraging the church at Philippi to “live your life in a manner worthy of the gospel of Christ.”[1]  He goes on to appeal for community unity and individual humility. He asks the church to “make his joy complete” by being “of the same mind, having the same love, being in full accord and of one mind.” 
            Along with unity, Paul is appealing for humility. This humility is grounded in Christ’s “humbling” himself to the point of crucifixion.

            Christ comes very near, and works in us. “God is the one working in you both the willing and the working.” God gives us the desire and energy to be instruments of Christ’s compassion in the world.  Paul exhorts the Philippians to “work out their salvation.” But this isn’t their private, individual destiny, but the quality of their corporate life, as it is lived in Christ. Paul has already described this quality of life in terms of mutual love and affection, sharing in the Spirit, unity, humility, putting others first--and all of this “in Christ.”

In your relationships with one another,
let the same mindset be in you that was in Christ Jesus,
who though he was in the form of God,
did not regard equality with God as something to be exploited,
but emptied himself, taking the form of a slave,
Being born in human likeness.
And being found in human form, he humbled himself
And became obedient to the point of death--even death on a cross.
Therefore, God also exalted him
And gave him the name
That is above every name,
So that at the name of Jesus
Every knee should bend,
In heaven and on earth and under the earth,
And every tongue should confess that Jesus Christ is Lord,
To the glory of God the Father.[3]

            At the name of Jesus, every knee should bend.
            There’s been a lot of conversation lately about kneeling, or “taking a knee.”
             Many people have been offended or annoyed by the players who take a knee during the national anthem, while many others have supported them. 
            Those who are offended are saying things like, “They’re disrespecting the flag!” “They’re disrespecting the Anthem!” “They’re disrespecting the military!”
            Those who say this ignore what the protesters have said repeatedly about why they’re kneeling.
            Last week Eric Reid wrote in the New York Times that he began paying attention to reports about the numbers of unarmed black people being killed by police. One in particular brought him to tears: the killing of Alton Sterling in his hometown.  He wrote, “I wanted to do something, but didn’t know what or how to do it. All I knew for sure is that I wanted it to be as respectful as possible.”
            A few weeks later, during pre-season, his teammate Colin Kaepernick chose to sit on the bench during the National Anthem to protest police brutality, but nobody noticed for a few weeks. When his protest gained national attention, the backlash against him began.
            Eric Reid wrote, “That’s when my faith moved me to take action. I looked to James 2:17, which states, ‘Faith by itself, if it does not have works, is dead.’ I knew I needed to stand up for what is right.”
            He and Kaepernick talked.  Then they had a meeting with Nate Boyer, a former Green Beret and Seattle Seahawks long-snapper. Boyer said he saw in the quarterback a person who wanted to make his message about racial injustice in the country clear, but who also wanted to find a better way to do it

which is when they decided that it would be better, more respectful to the military, to kneel.  Boyer remembers they talked about how people take a knee to pray. In the military, when they’re exhausted on patrol, they say take a knee and face out. They take a knee as a sign of respect in front of a brother’s grave site.[4]
             
            I imagine there are people here today who have felt offended or disapproving about how some have been “taking a knee” during the National Anthem and that there are others who support their nonviolent protest.  Maybe some just feel uncomfortable being reminded of racial injustice and wish people would stop talking about it. Maybe some feel conflicted about it and are struggling.

            I’m not here to tell anybody which side they should be on in this controversy.  What I am called to do is to continually proclaim God’s word, and keep reminding us that we are all called to do justice, love mercy, and walk humbly with God,[5] and to keep asking us to think and pray about what that looks like for us today. What does it look like for us to be humble and to look to the interests of others?
            I think that humbling ourselves requires us to listen, to open ourselves to understanding and being in solidarity with others, especially those who are oppressed, including trying to understand why someone would decide to use whatever platform or opportunity they have for peaceful protest of injustice.
            Colin Kaepernick and some of the others who are protesting are our brothers and sisters in Christ.
            Kaepernick is a Christian who was baptized Methodist, confirmed Lutheran and attended a Baptist church during his college years.  He has a Bible scroll with Psalm 18:39 tattooed on his right arm. Underneath is written “To God be the Glory.”
            Is it possible that Kaepernick and some others kneel not out of disrespect but as an act of faith?

            I keep thinking about the kneeling and how Kaepernick decided to kneel rather than sit after talking with a veteran. But I keep thinking there’s a link to his Christian faith.
            Kneeling can show respect or reverence. It can show humility.  Many churches, especially Catholic churches, have kneelers. I remember that to take communion in the Methodist church in which I grew up, you had to go forward and kneel at the railing to receive communion.  In the church, over the centuries, kneeling has been seen as a holy, worshipful act.[6]

            Some of the beautiful things about our nation are our diversity… our freedom of religion--freedom to practice any religion we choose or not to practice any religion-- and separation of church and state.
            On my Grandmother Frances’ side of the family, I have Brethren in Christ roots, which is part of the Anabaptist tradition, which came out of Radical Reformation.  Within the Anabaptist tradition, it is believed that it is a denial of their Christian faith to pledge their allegiance to anyone or anything other than to Jesus, and it’s common to abstain from symbolic acts such as displaying the flag or singing the national anthem.  There is also a deep appreciation that they live in a country where religious differences are tolerated and gratitude for the freedoms we enjoy, including the freedom for conscientious objectors whose scruples prevent them from bearing arms in the military to perform alternative service  
            As a Presbyterian, I remember that John Calvin wrote, “The human mind is a perpetual factory of idols.” [7]

            Among the great themes of the Reformed tradition listed in our Presbyterian Book of Order is “the recognition of the human tendency to idolatry and tyranny, which calls the people of God to work for the transformation of society by seeking justice and living in obedience to the Word of God.”[8]
             As I followed the commentary this week and meditated on the questions of authority and the call to humility and unity in our scripture lessons, I kept remembering what the John Pavlovitz suggested in a post:
            “Maybe we should all be kneeling right now….
            “And instead of demonizing Colin Kaepernick and instead of blaming shooting victims, and instead of shouting down our brothers and sisters of color as they mourn—we should be listening to them.
            “More than that, we should be saying with our presence and our pain and our social media voices and our dollars, that we are grieving alongside them; that this is not okay with us, that this is not the America we want either.”[9]
            On this World Communion Sunday, we celebrate our unity with our brothers and sisters in Christ around the world.  We celebrate the good news that Christ has broken down the dividing wall between people...  and that Christ is our peace.[10]  
             Today, Christians come together around the Lord's Table-- the one place where we are one, no matter what our race, or language, or nationality or theology or politics.
            As we come to celebrate this sacred feast with our brothers and sisters in the faith, let us pray that we may be filled with Christ's passionate dislike of whatever keeps us from his peace. Let us heed those in our time those who raise a prophetic voice against the ways of injustice and oppression and call God's people back to God's ways of righteousness and peace, and let us remember them each day in our prayers.
            As we eat the bread and drink from the cup, may we do so in thankfulness for the unity we find in Christ...  and in willingness to go out to be God's peacemakers in the world.
            Amen! 

Rev. Fran Hayes, Pastor
Littlefield Presbyterian Church
Dearborn, Michigan
October 1, 2017


[1]Philippians 1:27-30
[2] Susan Eastman, in “Commentary on Philippians 2:1-13, at Working Preacher. http://www.workingpreacher.org/preaching.aspx?commentary_id=1009

[3] Philippians 2

[4] Nick Wagoner, “From a seat to a knee: How Colin Kaepernick and Nate Boyer are trying to effect change. http://www.espn.com/blog/san-francisco-49ers/post/_/id/19253/from-a-seat-to-a-knee-how-colin-kaepernick-and-nate-boyer-are-trying-to-affect-change


[5] Micah 6:8
[7] Jean Calvin, Institutes of the Christian Religion (1560), Book 1, Chapter XI, section 8.
[8] Presbyterian Church (U.S.A.) Book of Order 2015-2017, F-2.05.
[10]Ephesians 2:14-
.








Sunday, September 24, 2017

"It's All About the Love." A Sermon from Littlefield Presbyterian Church on Good News Sunday.



"It's All About the Love"

Matthew 22:34-40; 1 John 4:7-21




            Today is officially Good News Sunday at Littlefield!   We told people that—if they brought someone to worship today—we promise that they would hear some good news! 
            Have you heard some good news?  In the scripture lessons or in the songs?  [I hope so.  That takes a bit of the pressure off me, now.  Though I’ll do my best.]
            I do believe we have good news to share-- important and life-changing good news.  Sometimes I think I risk sounding like a “broken record.”   Some of you have heard me say this over and over again, in various ways.   But the more I’ve studied the scriptures over the years and looked for the main themes and the big picture, the more I’ve become convinced that our Christian faith is really all about love. 
            God loves us.  We are—all of us-- God’s beloved children.  Our faith is about responding to God’s love for us and for all God’s children by loving God   and loving all the people God loves. 
            The Hebrew Scriptures include some stories and verses that a lot of us find puzzling and troubling.  Yet one of the major themes is of God’s steadfast loving-kindness.
            One of my teachers at Princeton Seminary did her doctoral dissertation on the recurring theme of “hesed”, which is a Hebrew word that can be translated as “mercy,” or “steadfast loving-kindness.”
            One of the other prominent themes in the Old Testament is how God keeps sending prophets to call people back to living in right relationship with God and neighbor…  and how those right relationships are characterized by love and justice and mercy.
             The gospel message in the New Testament proclaims in various ways how Jesus came to live among us, full of grace and truth, to embody God’s love for us, and to show us how to live in the way of love.   Jesus preached about the “kingdom of God” or the “reign of God” and how we are called to live into it.            
            When people asked Jesus what the most important commandment is, he said what’s most important is two-fold:  Love God.  Love your neighbor.  In the parable of the Good Samaritan, Jesus made it clear that your neighbor is anybody we encounter, anybody God puts in our path—even people who are different…  people we might even see as sinners or enemies. 
            In his last talk with his disciples, Jesus said, “I give you a new commandment, that you love one another as I have loved you.  People will know you are my followers by the way you love one another.”[1]
            Jesus made it very clear that it’s all about love.  So, I keep wondering how so many people who call themselves “Christians” could be so confused about this, who they could exclude and condemn people Christ has shown us we are to love and welcome.
            So many people in our society fear and mistrust those who are different:  Muslims…  people whose skin is a different color…  immigrants… refugees…people of different sexual orientations.    
            There are so many people in our nation who are hungry or food insecure or lack the basic things they need to live a life of dignity. In the midst of all this brokenness and fear and injustice, how are we-- as people of faith-- called to live?
           
            “Beloved, let us love one another, because love is from God.  Everyone who loves is born of God and knows God.  Whoever does not love does not know God, for God is love.   Since God loved us so much, we also ought to love one another.    No one has ever seen God.  If we love one another, God lives in us, and his love is made complete in us.”[2]
            I hear the scriptures saying that loving one another is an essential part of our spiritual practice and life.  As we work at loving one another, God is living in us and working in us and perfecting love in us….

            “There is no fear in love.  But perfect love casts out fear.  Whoever fears has not reached maturity in love.”
            We love because God first loved us.   If we say, “I love God” but hate our brother or sister, we’re lying about loving God.   As we heard in First John, “those who do not love a brother or sister whom they have seen—cannot love God, whom they have not seen.
            Fear divides us.  It leads to violence and destruction.   Hatred and fear are toxic.  They harm us as persons and as a society.
            But there is a way out.  It is not the way of fear, and hate and violence.  It is the way of love.  In Dr. Martin Luther King’s words: “Darkness cannot drive out darkness: only light can do that.  Hate cannot drive out hate: only love can do that.”[3]
            If we’re honest with ourselves, we know that we have a long way to go to drive hatred and fear out of our lives and out of our society.  Living in the way of love is not easy.  Living in the way of love is too hard to do on our own power alone.
            And so, we need to be in prayer.  We need to open our lives to God’s call in our lives, as we live further into God’s dream for the world—the world that God so loves.
            We need each other.  The Greek word ekklesia which we translate as “church” literally means an “assembly,” or those who are gathered together.   We need to come together as a community of faith-- not for the sake of coming to a place called church-- but for the sake of coming together as part of the Body of Christ, for the sake of gathering as disciples who need to learn and practice living in Christ’s way of love.
            We need to love one another and encourage one another.  We need to love one another into becoming more and more the beloved children of God we were created to be.   We need to love one another into becoming the beloved community. 
            God isn’t finished with any of us yet.  Our love isn’t yet perfect, and it hasn’t yet cast out all our fears.   But God is still working in and among and through us, through the power of the Holy Spirit, leading and empowering us to become more patient and kind and generous, and helping us to become less envious or controlling, less irritable or resentful.
            God is still working in us, guiding us further into the truth, re-forming us, teaching us what it means to go out and be the church in the world, in this time and place.
            The good news is that as we grow more and more into God’s way of love, God’s love will cast out our fears.
            In a broken and fearful world, we can trust in the Holy Spirit to give us courage to pray without ceasing.[4]   As we work with others for justice, freedom and peace, our lives will be transformed, and together we can change the world.       
           
            Thanks be to God!
         Amen.


[1] John 13:31-35

[2] 1 John 4:7-12
[3] Quoted from Martin Luther King, Jr., Strength to Love (1963).  I have read that he first said it in a sermon around 1957.
[4] This is an allusion to the “Brief Statement of Faith of the Presbyterian Church (USA)”, 1990.

Sunday, September 17, 2017

Interfaith Prayers for Peace at Littlefield Presbyterian Church: My Brief Meditation on Luke 4:14-21

We heard brief meditations from the Rev. Fran Hayes and Imam Elahi today, and Cantor Roger Skully sang prayers and scripture passages.

Let Us Work Together for a More Just & Peaceful World

Interfaith Prayers for Peace at Littlefield Presbyterian Church

In the scripture passage we just heard, Jesus is quoting from the prophet Isaiah[1] and declaring that his mission is about liberation and mercy.
            The Christian tradition shares the Hebrew scriptures with Judaism,  and we are challenged by the prophetic tradition.  We hear the prophet Micah proclaiming: “What does the LORD require of you but to do justice, and to love kindness, and to walk humbly with your God?”[2]  The prophet Amos lamented for Israel’s sin, accusing them for trampling on the poor and taking from them an unfair share.[3] 
            The prophet Isaiah proclaimed, “Woe to those who enact unjust policies and institute unfair regulations, to turn aside the needy from justice and rob the poor of their rights….”
            In the Torah, we are taught “when an alien resides with you in your land, you shall not oppress the alien.  The alien who resides with you shall be to you as the citizen among you; you shall love the alien as yourself, for you were aliens in the land of Egypt.”[4]
            Near the end of the gospel of Matthew in the Christian scriptures, we hear Jesus teaching his followers that the nations will be judged by how we treat those are marginalized and in need, and that when we are merciful to them, we are doing it for Jesus: I was hungry and you gave me food, I was thirsty and you gave me something to drink, I was a stranger and you welcomed me…I was naked and you gave me clothing, I was sick and you took care of me, I was in prison and you visited me.”

            For those of us who long for a more peaceful and just world, it’s painful to see the violence and need and destruction, and we may long to do something.  But it can feel overwhelming.  What can one person or just a few people do?
            The good news is that we don’t have to do it alone. We can find common ground and people who share our concerns and work together.
            For example: I was reminded recently that, in 2015, two Muslim groups--Islamic Relief USA and the Michigan Muslim Community Council-- gave $50,000 each to help Detroiters whose water had been shut off, saying, “It’s part of our faith to help.” They said they were hoping this would be contagious and would encourage others to help their neighbors.
            Christians, Muslims, Jews, and others have been working in various ways to address the immediate needs and the systemic causes of water injustice.

            At a meeting to launch the new Poor People’s Campaign, we heard Rabbi Alana Alpert tell about when the Poor People’s Campaign went to Washington DC in 1968-- 49 years ago-- they approached a downtown Jewish Community Center, asking that the building’s showers be made available.  The leaders of the center rejected the request -- and the story could have ended there. But a group of young rabble-rousers known as Jews for Urban Justice threatened a “pray in”. The leaders changed their decision and opened the building to the campaign.[5]
            This victory meant the campaign gained some structural support -- a tiny step.  “But,” Rabbi Alana said,  “it means more to me. To me it means that ancient tradition can be harnessed by activist youth to push their community to participate in the important movement work of their time.”
            Rabbi Alana told us that learning about this was part of a series of events that eventually convinced her not to give up on her community and her tradition.  And now she is leading Detroit Jews for Justice, a new organization inspired by the legacy of Jews for Urban Justice, who 50 years ago pushed their community to share their resources.  
            As Rabbi Alana said, “From generation to generation. Who knows what chain of events will come from brave actions we take today?”
            As Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. said, “We must learn to live together as brothers [and sisters] or perish together as fools."
            Our commitment to peace and justice and reconciliation, and our love for our own children, demands that we provide a better inheritance for them.”
            For all people of faith and goodwill, this is a time for us to find ways to come together and work for a better, more peaceful, merciful, and just  world--for everyone.
            There’s hard work to be done.   But we can work together to make a difference.

             After worship, we invite you to stay for a time, to enjoy refreshments and conversation.   We hope you’ll make a new friend today.  Talk with one another about your families—especially your children or grandchildren and what kind of a world you want to leave for them.
            Talk about what teachings from your faith inspire and challenge you…and about what common ground you see in our various traditions. Talk about the people who inspire you and challenge you in your commitment.
            Let’s renew our commitment to change the world, beginning today. 


Rev. Fran Hayes, Pastor
Littlefield Presbyterian Church
Dearborn, Michigan
September 17, 2017


[1] Isaiah 61
[2] Micah 6:8
[3] Amos 5:12-15
[4] Leviticus 19:33




Sunday, September 10, 2017

"God Is With Us". A Sermon on Matthew 18:15-20 from Littlefield Presbyterian Church.





"God Is With Us"

Matthew 18:15-20



Today as we’re gathered together as a congregation, we hear Jesus  remind us that where there are two or three are gathered in his name, he  is here with us.  Jesus’ words of God-with-us are words we need to hear. We’ve been watching the news and praying for the victims of Hurricane Harvey and now Hurricane Irma. A powerful earthquake has caused devastation in Mexico. The list goes on and on.  In the midst of all this, sometimes we need to be reminded that we are not alone.
            There can be great comfort in the promise of Jesus’ presence, in knowing that “where two or three are gathered in my name, I am there among them.” But sometimes, if we’ve been busy trying to do things our own way, we might not be so comfortable having Jesus so close.
            Life together in Christian community isn’t easy. Sometimes we might think it would be easier to carry on as if Jesus weren’t in the room. If we believe what the scriptures tell us about what Jesus taught, we might need to think twice about some of the things we say or do.
            Immanuel-- God-with-us-- isn’t always the God we wish for--a convenient God we can pin down and control, a God who approves our agendas and priorities.
            When we come together in Jesus’ name for church meetings or fellowship time or Bible study or worship, Jesus is here among us. When we’re making decisions about how the church will spend its money or whom the church will welcome, Jesus is here among us. When the church looks around at what’s going on in the world and questions whether it should speak up or stay silent, Jesus is here among us, by the power of the Holy Spirit, guiding and encouraging us and urging us further into God’s beloved community.
            In the day-to-day dealings we have with one another, Jesus is here among us. And that can be a real challenge, because churches are full of troublesome people,  like the rest of the world.  
            Sometimes people join a church thinking that they’ve entered some holy community where everyone is good and kind and loving all the time and nobody ever gossips or spreads rumors or disagrees on anything. If somebody does have this kind of naïve expectation, all it would take is serving on a committee or doing something for the church, before they realize this isn’t a perfect church made up of “perfect” people-- because there isn’t such a thing.
            In contemporary North American church life, it’s not uncommon for people to respond to hurt or conflict by losing enthusiasm or leaving the church in anger or disappointment.  Maybe they decide it’s time to do some church hopping or shopping, hoping they’ll find a more perfect church somewhere else. Maybe they give up on church altogether.    When this happens, the congregation and those involved may carry scars for years to come, and there’s no resolution or healing. Among the very people called to extend God’s grace and reconciliation to the world, God’s will is thwarted.

            Clearly, Jesus wasn’t naïve . He knew there were going to be disagreements and misunderstandings and conflicts when well-meaning people come together in his name.  Conflict is inevitable.  People will fight, disagree, or wound one another.  The issue is how we go about addressing and resolving these issues when we have them.
            Jesus knew it wouldn’t be easy. In the ancient world and in the church today, we have a terrible time handling confrontation, disagreement, and mutual accountability. We have to keep learning how to live together, how to fight fairly and constructively, and how to stay together in healthy community.
            So Matthew gives us this instruction to help us handle our sin and its consequences within Christian community.  I like the way David Lose summarizes what the passage teaches us:  “People sin. Communities are made up of these sinning people. When that happens and you’re involved, do something about it;  namely, go talk to the other person directly like a mature adult, rather than behind his or her back. If that doesn’t work, involve some others of the community” as a way of involving and preserving the larger community that is affected by the dispute. [1]
            The wisdom of our scriptures teaches us that we are not to deal with conflict like the world often does, through yelling, slandering, gossiping, or humiliating one another. But we’re also not to sweep things under the rug as if the conflict doesn’t exist, because that won’t lead to resolution and reconciliation.

            So, what should the church do if resurrection seems impossible because an offending person insists on his or her own way? 
            Jesus’ answer isn’t as simple as it may seem: “Let such a one be to you as a Gentile and a tax collector.”   What does that mean?

            Some church communities have seen this as an instruction to excommunicate, exile, or shun the person. That might seem like common sense. It may feel satisfying for a while.  But I don’t think this is consistent with Jesus’ teachings.
            Jesus often interacted with Gentiles, tax collectors, prostitutes, and other outsiders, so we need to be careful to interpret this faithfully.
            Far from shunning people, Jesus commands us not to give up on people, never to stop reaching out in love to them-- to yearn for grace to restore what has been broken.
            I think context can help us understand what this passage is saying.
            In the verses that lead into today’s gospel lesson, Jesus tells the parable of the lost sheep. “Take care that you do not despise one of these little ones; for, I tell you, in heaven their angels continually see the face of my Father in heaven.
            What do you think? If a shepherd has a hundred sheep, and one of them has gone astray, does he not leave the nine-nine on the mountains and go in search of the one that went astray? And if he finds it, truly I tell you, he rejoices over it more than over the ninety-nine that never went astray.  So it is not the will of your Father in heaven that one of these little ones should be lost.”[2]

            In the verses that follow today’s lesson, Peter needs to make sure he has heard correctly. “Lord, if a brother sins against me, how often should I forgive?” Jesus tells him “seventy times seven”-- or, I think, as long as it takes.[3]

            Authentic community is hard to come by. It’s work, and it can be messy at times.  But living in Christian community can also give us a taste of heaven on earth, when we experience the reality of God’s fellowship and presence in our midst. When we gather in Christ’s name, with honesty and integrity, even when it’s hard, amazing things can happen because Jesus is with us, in our midst, as we are formed by our life together.

            As Barbara Brown Taylor says, Jesus is letting his disciples know that they need each other-- not only for practical reasons, but for spiritual ones as well. “They need each other because two heads are better than one; they need each other because they can accomplish more together than they can apart. They need each other like brothers and sisters need each other, to remind themselves that they belong to one family.”
            “When families work right, they are God’s way of teaching us important things, like how to share and how to work together and how to take care of one another. A healthy family has a way of smoothing our rough edges by making us rub up against each other, like tumbling pebbles in a jar. Living with other people, we learn that we cannot have everything our own way. We learn to compromise, giving up some of the things we want so that other people can have some of the things they want, and while it is never easy, learning this give and take is part of learning how to be fully human.”[4]

            Now, some of us didn’t learn these healthy ways to fight and make up and forgive each other in our families. Some of us may have learned that rules are more important than people. Some of us may have learned things like, “if you can’t say something nice, _________.” [I paused to let people finish this sentence, and, apparently, many people had learned this: “Don’t say anything at all.”] 
            Some of us may have been taught that if we have a problem with someone, we should keep it to ourselves, because harmony--even the illusion of harmony-- is the most important thing, more important than telling the truth. More important than your feelings. More important than you.
            The problem with these unhealthy, unholy ways of dealing with conflict and hurt feelings is that-- if we don’t have good ways of resolving them and working to reconciliation, we end up collecting hurt feelings and resentment. We nurse grudges. We can feel sorry for ourselves. And we can feel hopeless about ever changing things for the better.
            I think that’s very sad. 

            In his book The Great Divorce, C.S. Lewis paints a haunting picture of hell.  Hell, Lewis says, is like a vast, gray city that’s inhabited only at its outer edges, with rows and rows of empty houses in the middle-- empty because everyone who once lived in them has quarreled with the neighbors and moved, and quarreled with the new neighbors and moved again, leaving empty streets full of empty houses behind them.
            That, Lewis says, is how hell got so large-- empty at the center and inhabited only on the fringes--because everyone in it chose distance instead of confrontation as the solution to a fight.[5] 

            If you look up “confrontation” in the dictionary, you find it’s about bringing two people face to face, front to front, to sort out what is going on between them. I think that’s what Jesus is talking about in today’s gospel lesson.
            We are gathered here in Christian community, as disciples of Jesus Christ, to learn to live in the way of Jesus-- the way of love. We have been entrusted with a ministry of reconciliation.
            Today’s gospel lesson challenges us to work toward reconciliation when someone sins against us.  In order to do that, we need to decide what’s important to us.  What do I want most?  Do I want more than anything to be right? Do I want the other person to feel bad before I would want to be reconciled to them?  Or can I accept that we have some differences but that we are brothers and sisters in Christ and that the relationships are more important than rules and reconciliation is more important than retribution?

            We are called to witness to the world Christ’s ministry of reconciliation, which overcomes all divisions. There is so much in our world that troubles and challenges us-- hurricanes and earthquakes and fires, displays of hatred, and injustice. The world desperately needs us to be the Body of Christ.
            When we live together in Christian community, there will be conflict, but it is precisely through conflict that we can model for the world how to bind and loose one another in healthy and holy ways. This is how we can witness to the world Christ’s ministry of reconciliation, which overcomes divisions through the power of Christ’s self-giving love. This is how we show through our lives that goodness is stronger than evil, that love is stronger than hate, and that life is stronger than death.

            May it be so among us and through us!
            Amen!



Rev. Fran Hayes, Pastor
Littlefield Presbyterian Church
Dearborn, Michigan
September 10, 2017


[1] David Lose, “What Kind of Community Will We Be?” http://www.workingpreacher.org/craft.aspx?post=1601


[2] Matthew 18:10-14.
[3] Matthew 18:21-22.
[4] Barbara Brown Taylor, “Family Fights: Matthew 18:15-20” in The Seeds of Heaven: Sermons on the Gospel of Matthew. (Westminster), 2004.
[5] C.S. Lewis, The Great Divorce. (1945).  This fictional work is a theological dream vision in which he reflects on Christian understandings of Heaven and Hell.